Yak yak
I don’t do much of the words regurgitation thing often anymore- I used to- but ever since after the camera came into the picture I realised how much more appealing visuals are compared to my thoughts (in other words, my writing is shite). But I have a question:-
Is it possible for two people to meet at a very young age and remain together forever? Li Tat’s aiming at that. As for me… I’d went through a couple of aholes to get to him, so I certainly don’t mind doing so.
That being said, will we last? We might have been together for only a short year plus, but I really think that we have gone as far as (or maybe further than) other long relationships- such as in love (ooh the big L word), emotions, family matters etc. I won’t be mentioning the other aspect as some people do get iffy at the mention of s star x.
My imagination’s rather wild, I have thought about myself being in a certain spot- I’m on a yacht, in a LBD while sipping bubbly… and there are tons of gorgeous men flocking around me. If one comes onto me, what do I say?
“I’m taken, sorry”
Because I DO want Li Tat forever. I foresee him making me happy, and hopefully vice versa. I don’t see him well, beating me and making me stay home with the kids… though it might just be the other way round… I’m kidding, future in laws! Ha! Ha. Ha.
But I am also open towards the possibility of one of us finding a better partner. I suppose if Li Tat wants out for someone whom he sees he’ll have a better future with, I’ll be obliged to send him on his way… Who am I kidding?! I’ll hunt her down with a knife… a rusty knife.
Umn, so. Forever ever after… does it exist?
Current Mood:
curious
April 24th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
hey jam, i’m afraid you are probably going to get the same answer from a lot of your readers.
a lot of people are skeptical towards what you are saying. that being said, it is possible. i have a friend that have been with each other since year 10 and they’re married now at the age of 23.
i don’t have a boyfriend now and is single, and i think it’s awesome that i can keep my options open to lots of men LOL but that doesn’t mean that your life isn’t awesome at the moment too :)
April 24th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
I like the part about the rusty knife..
you would be like chuckie with black hair and a
pretty face and minus the pinafore..hehehehe
April 24th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
hi jiameei, i’m actually in the same position as you… except that i’m with my first bf right now. i feel that we’ve also gone very far in our relationship even though we’ve only been together 1 yr plus and i can really see a future for us.
but i don’t think how far a couple has gone in terms of physical intimacy is indicative of anything at all though. to me, that has more to do with lifestyle choices.
that being said, i guess we can never really tell for sure.. but when you know that you and your other half are good for each other, and you have a good feeling about it, it’s really the best feeling in the world - a feeling of stability and security. what i have found is that instead of worrying whether you will make it as a couple, it’s better to just really enjoy what you have and to cherish the company and make sure that you honour that person while you are in the relationship.
happily ever after definitely exists - the only thing is we never know when it begins. it might begin now, or it might begin with the next person we meet. all we can do is make the best of the moment so that we have no regrets; be kind to each other and be forgiving instead of being bitter and vindictive. that’s what makes good memories. :) all the best to you and li tat!
April 24th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
Bloghop! Anyway I love your entry I think it’s really very meaningful. And i think aud just gave one of the best advices I’ve heard (or read in this case) regarding relationships.
“Just enjoy what you have and to cherish the company and make sure that you honour that person while you are in the relationship.”
“make the best of the moment so that we have no regrets; be kind to each other and be forgiving instead of being bitter and vindictive. that’s what makes good memories”
Yes. No regrets. (: All the best to you and your boyfriend!
April 24th, 2008 at 6:48 pm
hey sweetie <3
deep thoughts, deep thoughts :)
so much to say but it’ll sound like i’m nagging you ;\
so just, love with all your heart but never hoard.
because you just DON’T know what the future holds..
take things one day at a time, i guess :)
mwahmwah!
xxxxx
April 24th, 2008 at 7:12 pm
hello =) i bloghopped here through sweatlee’s site.
i agree audrey’s advice is really good. i’ve been with my bf for about a year too and it’s really easy to get sidetracked thinking ’bout ‘what if’s’ the future. when he first started college, i was practically holding my breath till the day he’d cheat on me with some slut in his class and leave me lol but after a while i realised being so focussed on something i barely have control over is pretty useless.
so let him know just how special he is now and leave no room for regrets later. all the best. =)
April 24th, 2008 at 7:40 pm
“Who am I kidding?! I’ll hunt her down with a knife… a rusty knife.”
HAHAHAH GOOD ONE JAMMIE! wtf
I have a very, very weird take on relationships wtf. In fact sometimes I feel that my true manliness shines when it comes to emotions and relationships wtf.
I would say I’m a realist, I understand that life’s not cut out and dry as it may seem, especially when it comes to relationships. I’m someone who thinks love isn’t enough. You may love someone until you’d die for him wtf but if circumstances and time doesn’t comply with you, how are things gonna work?
That said, I know Tat to know that he treats his lady like how a lady should be treated - like a princess wtf fuckoff Tat this is the only time i’m gonna praise you HAHAHAHAHA but it’s true. he’s an amazing friend and i’m very sure he’s an amazing other half as well. i can’t imagine him mistreating u, but if he does, let me know. i’ll drag him down to klang and cook bah kut teh outta him wtf.
i think we’re only really, really sure when we can start thinking about forever when we’ve come to the point of stability. i always believe time changes ppl, and it’s the matter of whether the other person is able to grow with you and support you along the way.
just like you, i’ve dated various guys along the way - and some, a-holes wtf. i may not seem like someone who’s that weak but during that period it was one my lowest times ever. crrrrryyyy until my mother also cannot recognise me wtf. but i don’t regret- because these experiences made me a stronger person. and i think i’ve reached the point where i’ve dated enough to know what i really, really want, because they just don’t make me feel the same way as i do and i think i might’ve just found my soul mate - who’s as sohai as me wtf. jokes aside, he has the ability to be the stronger person, and i know if there was one person i can turn to during my trying times - it would definately be him altho we’re a million miles apart /boo wtf. we took a very long time to sort things out - distance being the greatest barrier wtf and many other uncertainties along they way - and i’m glad la cos in that sense we learnt more about each other wtf.
yalah yalah you know who i’m talking about la wtf.
wah i sound like a preacher now wtf. ok good night wtf.
April 24th, 2008 at 8:36 pm
hi jam, just happen to stumble upon your blog. sometimes i do think the same thing about my bf and i! we’re together for 4 years and still counting :) love the fact that we get along very well and we are so comfortable having each other around. but then again, i always tell myself that we are still young, just 22 and we all know many things are unpredictable. noone knows what will happen after we graduate, start working and all.
mmm i guess the only thing you can do now is just have faith in each other. at least you know you’ll live with no regrets for you once had someone you loved so very much.
all the best to you and your love :)
April 24th, 2008 at 11:00 pm
Ozzie: Since Year 10!!! That’s so sweet :) And yeah it’s true, if you’re single you can keep your options open to loads of different men- that was one thing I was a little broody about. If Tat and I remain together forever, we wouldn’t be able to experience having other people in our lives… But I suppose it can’t be helped since we met each other this young, and it’s just a small price to pay for our happiness in the long run :) Btw, you sound like a strong single woman with a great life- I’m envious! :)
Gene: *stalks you with a knife*
Aud: Ah first love! I wasn’t as lucky as you, my first love ended up in shambles ugh. Really good for you :) And thank you so so much, I really liked your comment as it was filled with reaaally good advice. It made me think a lot! All the best to you and your bf too! Thanks again :)
Eelaine: Thankew! :) And yes her advice was really good! Esp the ‘be forgiving instead of being bitter and vindicative’ part. Thank you, all the best to you too! :)
Keshia: Just random silly thoughts :) Haha I’ll never think that you’re nagging! Yeah one day at a time :) And I really think if there’s an ever after it’ll be you and Poon!
Estherbobester: Your nickname’s so cute! Trueee if you’re too focused on the negatives (hahahah slut in his class so funny!) it’ll shadow over the positives I suppose :S I will and all the best to you too :)
Eeflin: But I really meant that… HAHAH why your comment so insightful yet funny wtf. Yeah I learnt the hard way love is not enough.. HAHAH TAT KEMBANG ALREADY what have you done! Ya dei free bak kut teh wtf. But to me Eeflin’s never weak?! And I’m really happy you’re happy with your uhh soulmate wtf… you guys went through so much and the both of you really deserve to be with each other la :) Sayang Eeflin.
Michelle: Hello, yes I love the comfortable part of the relationship! Like you can do anything and not have to worry about what he thinks of you! Congrats on your 4 years that’s realllly long :) Yeah just enjoy what we have at the present I suppose… thank you and all the best for yours too :) :)
April 24th, 2008 at 11:18 pm
Jam, I love your posts up there and this one as well :)
People do find their soulmates at a very very young age ie Sweet Home Alabama and the Notebook. wtf.
But bear in mind, when I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Han, all the shitiest thing happened. I don’t believe in forever, cause they never exist.
However, in your case, you know what you want and you are happy. Most importantly, what you are happy NOW and Tat is your Mr Right-Now and who knows he may turn into Mr Right ;)
Enjoy today and worry tomorrow. If you believe in it, it will happen :) *hugs*
April 24th, 2008 at 11:33 pm
hmm. i will say that love is definitely not enough, but u and latat seem to have everything going on for you.. distance is not a factor, and no personality clashes (occasionally la but when latat gets emo just throw a fish at him wtf) .. so can la get married and i wanna be maid of honour!!!!!!!!!!!!
April 25th, 2008 at 12:28 am
Hey Jia Meei, just bloghopping.
I once told my boyfriend, that I don’t want “forever”, I just us to be together for the rest of our lives.
Make the best of what you’ve got now. You don’t have to look too much into the future, let it surprise you!
Have faith :)
April 25th, 2008 at 1:29 am
It IS possible though it seems scary to just go through and wait for it to happen huh? But yes, it is possible as I have heard of my friends’ siblings/friends/family members/acquaintances who have been in a r’ship for like 10 years prior to their marriage.
I believe in working towards getting “there” (being together for a loonngg. long time). But we need a lil hope too for that :)
For the fact that your family accepts your r’ship is a verryy good advantage. Timmy and I have so many obstacles approaching us but god knows why the heck are we still even together =P Hahahaha I kid!
Ahhh your thoughts are just as mine, babe.
April 25th, 2008 at 2:32 am
WAHHH why got so many people’s comments applicable to my relationship!!
aud: My bf is also my first love! But we have been together for more than 4 years! :)
michelle: Finally I found someone who has been in a relationship for… ages wtf. It is my 5th year this year!! T_T
ainul: You mean stories of people being together for 10 years before getting marries DO exist? T___T
Shit, jam, why like my own blog like that wtf.
Do you know my bf told me that this is the 6th year he has wished me Happy Birthday! That scared me wtf. But sigh, I know what you mean, in a way, I feel it more, ’cause my bf is my first (first love la, what are you thinking of wtf) and I haven’t even tried other fishes in the sea, do you know what I mean? On bad days, I will wonder la, wandering eye wtf, about what I am missing out on. But on good days, I know what I have is the a really really good thing, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. :)))
April 25th, 2008 at 2:47 am
wah why the other aud so pure! as opposed to this one yalah club whore wtf
ok la talk to u about this online too personal to say much wtf
April 25th, 2008 at 10:21 am
hahahha yala i was reading the other aud’s comment and thought eh is this audrey ooi wtf first bf?!
haih u know how i feel la hor always talk about it edi
April 25th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Dear Jia Meei, with the right person, forever and ever feels like barely a heartbeat. And I do think you’ve met the right person, yes? =)
I realise I don’t know you, or Li Tat (source of bak kut teh meat wtf) in real life, but it seems to me that what you have is real. Real = you two are happy (it’s bleeding obvious!) and lovey-dovey (awwwwwww!), but with the occasional ta kaos thrown into the mix haha, cos life’s just like that y’know?
It’s only natural to wonder what’s out there, you’re so young hon, only 21! But I think you know what you want out of life, and so does Tat, and the both of you feature in each other’s long-term plans. That, and his family and yours approve - can I just say how important this is? Because I’ve been burned in the past for precisely this reason.
So, I have to say: all systems go, babe!
Just keep going as long as both of you are happy and fulfilled, and see what happens. I think things will sort of fall into place naturally, as long as the important stuff is there. Which it is, as: 1. Found each other 2. Are compatible with each other 3. You make each other happy.
ps: Feel free to disregard my advice, coming as it is from a masam old crone, with only one long-term relationship under her belt wtf. It’s not like I can say I am drawing from a wealth of real-life experience ok wtf.
April 25th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
Jammie’s Aud wtf: Why you say you’re the club whore wtf.
April 25th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
ps: Your. writing. is. not. shite.
pps: Rusty knife wtf hahaha. Yes, I think you’d put up a bit more of a fight if you had to let Li Tat go ok, if it’s worth fighting for, it’s important to you. And I think The One Who Fears Dogs and Pork is important to you wtf.
April 25th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
if you love him, take him with you,
if he dont loves you, he will leave
just make sure that your love are both ways…
clapping with 1 hand sure is no fun at all…
…. and hunt down those bitXX with knifes
!!!! hahaha
April 25th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
huiwen: mine is my first love too! :) and i get what you mean about the missing out part. but deep down inside i’m sure you know youre lucky to have him no?
April 25th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
michellesy: The One Who Fears Dogs and Pork, HAHHAHAHHA!
michelle: Omg, you too? :)))) Haha, yes, of course! I know that even if I have all the picks in the world, it would still be him that I pick. :) But I have more .. cynical friends who question me, “you haven’t seen the world yet, how do you know that this is the best that you can get?” -____-
But I don’t know la, happiness is the best sign that this is, indeed, the best. :D
April 25th, 2008 at 4:43 pm
Wow so many comments. I have to leave one because i love talking about my boyfriend hahaha.
I’m 100% sure i’m going to marry him, jia meei! :) I feel it deep inside my gut, my heart, my instincts - everything. And for one more reason : i know there will NEVER be anyone who can make me happier than he does. He showed me happiness that i’d never thought existed.
If i were on the yatch, i’d say ‘im taken’, very very happily and willingly. And i’m sure Gary will too. We’re just 2y2m old :p
It’s something you just KNOW. So if you feel like he is your last and only, just accept it and stop wondering about what-ifs. You’re so lucky to find yours so young! Some people don’t until they’re like 40s saddd.
So have faith and enjoy the ride :)
ps : i’m so gonna invite you to my wedding heehee
.e.L.L.e.
April 25th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
Oh, and please don’t be like the 936524 people out there who think i’m delusional. :)
April 25th, 2008 at 9:56 pm
just remember if u do get married to puan tuan bulat then ur kids will have to sunat too wtfwtf ( if got boy la)
April 26th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Chee Lim: HUGS I know you were really gutted about the thing with Han.. But you are an AMAZING person, and I am very sure you’ll find someone who will treat you well :) And I kinda like that! Mr. Right-Now instead of Mr. Right. Thank you hon :)
Tze: But I DO think that love is not enough… We will be heading towards the distance factor soon though… fingers crossed! Hahah throw a fish. You can be bridesmaid!!!
Lydia: Hello Lydia, yeah I am certainly looking into the ‘together for the rest of our lives’ region too! Thank you so much :) :)
Ainul: Sayang I really admire you and Timmy! Yes despite all the obstacles, you and your ah boy (hee!) are still going strong… and that’s saying a lot! You guys deserve to be with each other :) Hmmn maybe love IS enough!
Hui Wen: You and Chor Min so sweet so longggggg! Whoa 6th year ajksdhakjshd yeah bit scary.. but it’s also a good thing!! Means he’ll never bore of you hahaha and forever most probably will happen to the both of you :) Haha yeah I have my good and bad days too! Let’s talk this over lo shu fun next week wtf
Jammie’s Audie: WHAT CLUB WHORE I love you
Suet: Hahahahha yeah in fact you were the one who made me think about it in the first place!
Michellesy: Hey babe thanks so much :) :) I love your comments they’re always so nice and motivational hahaha. And don’t worry, you being so sweet I’m sure you’ll snag your Mr. Right in no time! Thanks again hugsss. HAHAHA The One Who Fears Dogs and Pork HAHAHAHA
Passerby: HAHAHA okay I will do that!!
Elle: Sweetie you WILL marry Gary it’s so blatantly obvious!! I’ll never think you’re delusional, I find it so sweet :) I don’t see Gary much but from what you tell me I can tell that he loves you loads :) You’re one of the lucky ones! Yes please make sure you do hee!
Kai: Wtf wtf who said we’re gonna have kids hmph. Dog also need to sunat ah wtf
April 26th, 2008 at 5:17 pm
So there is a possible waiting list huh? Can I be 1st on that waiting list? Willing to go mtbing, golfing + running anytime! hehe (I’m still dreaming)
April 26th, 2008 at 5:41 pm
Hui Wen: Yessss I’ve heard (and know some of these couple too) of these stories quite a few times, really! It’s like a boost of spirit ot me cuz everytime I hear the story, I’d go, “Ohhhh thank god it exists! Got hope, got hope hahahhahha!”
April 26th, 2008 at 6:18 pm
Hanonymous: Awww so sweet! But that you gotta ask Tat HEEHEE
April 27th, 2008 at 5:45 pm
Jmeei,
I gotta ask Tat? Is like asking for my grave yard!
Does it mean to say,. if u’re with a special someone, you can’t go out with any other opposite sex individually? I beg to differ though. If i had a partner, I’ll still allow my partner to go have fun with other ppl, even if it’s a 1-on-1. I believe, if I haven’t tied-the-knot, my partner should still have FREEDOM,.. even freedom to date others. I just think it’s a asian culture/taboo, that if I’m seeing someone, i can’t date the rest.
I wonder what you,. and the rest of your blog readers will comment.
sorry if I’ve made this a forum!
April 27th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
Hmmn actually we don’t believe in that! Tat allows me to go out with guys, even if it’s a one-on-one thing! It’ll be better if he knows the fella but besides that it’s all about trust! Yes even if you’re married!
Oh but you shouldn’t lie about it, of course.
I suppose you can’t categorise it as a ‘date’? As that might be considered as cheating on your other half.. I suppose it depends on what you do!
No worries :)
May 1st, 2008 at 2:44 am
i didn’t stumble upon your blog nor did i blog hop.=P
hehehe, i’m a realist but at the same time i believe tat is a good guy.
If its one guy i know who can make you happy, tuan can do it!
Go tuan!
I’ve been with my GF for a year, and we are currently doing LD, it sucks but its only 2 more months before i’ll be seeing her (:
May 1st, 2008 at 7:11 pm
Yay Tuan!!! Hahahah
Congrats on your one year with Serena (that’s her name right? I’m very bad with names eep)!! Yes only two more months all the best Jian!